Are you keen to explore the heightened pleasure of orgasm control with your partner?
Whether you want to know more about female orgasm control, lesbian orgasm control, bisexual orgasm control, or trans-gender orgasm control, we have got you covered.
Learning how to control orgasm is a skill that every queer person should master.
Enabling you to make sexual intercourse last longer, bring you closer to your partner, and transform your sex life, orgasm controlshould go right on the top of your sex to-do list.
What is orgasm control?
If you are unfamiliar with the term orgasm control, then you are in for a treat. Also known as edging, orgasm control is when you delay orgasm in order to achieve ongoing sexual stimulation and stronger waves of pleasure when you do succumb.
Edging is often discovered during solo explorations. Masturbating to the edge and then pulling back maintains a heightened state of arousal for an extended period of time, creating immense sexual tension with explosive potential. Of course, to maintain that state of arousal you’ll need an effective lubricant that can last as long as you. We love Uber lube for its uber slickness that doesn’t evaporate or change textures.
What’s The Point?
Anyone eager to embark on the journey of edging should become familiar with their point of no return. This is the point when orgasm is inevitable; any additional stimulation and your body will involuntary release. Pay attention to your body’s cues, such as the pace of breathing and muscle tension. Knowing the signs can help you surf the edge of pleasure without tumbling over.
One of the best toys on the market for orgasm control is the Magic Wand; its powerful vibrations will bring you to the edge over and over and over again. Practice makes perfect.
Practice on your own
If you are keen to try orgasm control for the first time, then we recommend getting started on your own. There are a wide range of queer and lesbian sex toys that are perfect for exploring solo edging.
The key is in working out how to stop yourself from going beyond the point of no return. You need to recognize the signs that you are close to orgasm and pull back before it is too late.
As you masturbate, whether with queer and lesbian vibrators or just your fingers, try and stay in tune to how your body is responding. Is your breathing speeding up? Are your toes starting to curl? All of these are signs that you are close to cuming.
When this happens, take a second or two to get your arousal levels fall before starting up again. It takes patience and dedication - they don’t call it orgasm control for nothing!
Take Control Of Your Partner’s Pleasure
Even more intoxicating is discovering your partner’s point of no return and introducing orgasm control as a tool of power play. Keep your lover in a heightened state of arousal by taking charge, controlling the flow of pleasure, and delaying release. Use anticipation and denial to create overwhelming sexual tension.
A slow build and steady burn is crucial to this task. Start by tending those often-ignored erogenous zones with Sliquid Massage Oil; rub their elbows and armpits and the back of their neck. Don’t forget the feet!
The trick is to not overstimulate the clitoris, which is easy to do given it has over 8,000 sensitive nerve endings. Instead, invite the whole body to participate.
Orgasms Must Be Earned
If orgasm is being withheld, then it naturally follows that permission to indulge must be granted. Incorporate this into your dirty talk by reminding your lover. Make them beg for permission when they think they are ready. If orgasm occurs before your command, punishment may be in order!
Conveniently, the companion to orgasm denial is forced orgasms. Sometimes even multiple forced orgasms.
Restraints are useful in this scenario, as they allow your attention to focus elsewhere. Our expertly designed Double Dildo is a versatile strapless option offering a high degree of control while keeping your hands free for other purposes.
That purpose will want to include the Womanizer Deluxe, an innovative PleasureAir device offering dual sensations of vibration and suction. Said to deliver quick, intense, and repeated clitorial orgasms, the Womanizer Deluxe can also be used during penetration or on other sensitive spots such as nipples.
As with any power play, aftercare is important. Particularly with more powerful orgasms, emotions may be heightened. Take a moment immediately after play to check in and offer comforting touch to your lover. This builds trust, intimacy, and communication, so don’t neglect your post orgasmic cuddles!
Play safe, find your edge, and come often! Or.... don’t.